Biletul 17 about the importance of being good

[mell]

17. Speak about the importance of being good – mannered in one’s life.

[ancanka]

17. Speak about the importance of being good – mannered in one’s life.

True happiness lies in the psychic, or inner divine. Going to that centre and living the outer human life from there will fill us with felicity. One can make an experiment for that purpose. I shall start with an analogy.
A work exists at several levels of skills, talents, capacities, endowments, accomplishment, from the low crude completion of utility to highly professional execution of a graceful act. At two ends, if these extremes exist, we find ourselves at some middle level. Placed as you are at your middle level, if you acquire the endowment of any higher level, LIFE can take you sooner or later to that level. Mother can take you to that high level at once.
A collector's work can be done by a rank promoted officer with care and responsibility; a secretary of the department at an advanced stage to complete his term as collector may come down for a short period as a collector and his execution of the collector's chores will be that of a mature, seasoned, experienced administrator with grace, speed and dexterity. When a writer of a text book comes down from his professional pedestal and teaches at a primary level, the teaching will be full of pith and substance, profound, enthralling. But neither the collector nor the professor can do at his post of duty more than what the post permits. The post has its own limitations by its level. Experienced persons can raise the quality of their performance very high, not the content. The collector cannot exercise higher powers than his post permits. The professor cannot teach in PUC what he can teach at the level of M.A. As the collector's post has limited powers, the PUC class, even at its best, has limited scope of receptivity.
While you are at a lower job, if you can acquire the dexterity of a higher level job, life quickly move you to the level to which your skill belongs.
Let us come down to life and grade it by levels of joy and felicity. These are low situations that yield a little joy; others yield a higher quantum of joy, while at the top there are situations whose yield of joy is the highest. Routine works yield no joy, interesting works yield some joy, while cherished, long-awaited occasions burst forth with joy. If you learn to do your works of every day with a greater joy, Mother will take you permanently to levels of life where that intensity of joy is permanent.
VIP visitors come to VIP houses and receive a rousing reception. VIP visitors in ordinary houses receive a still better reception. Ordinary visitors receive an ordinary reception. By learning to treat ordinary visitors as VIP visitors, you will move in life to be a VIP who will be receiving VIP visitors.
By learning to treat ordinary events as events of great felicity, you will move to a life position where all events begin to yield high felicity, making all life one of eternal joy.
To look at ourselves, our daily actions, our inmost feelings, especially our motivations from this point of view, we can at once know what we should do. If we bring a willingness to make that change or changes, life can turn from one of dull neutrality to one of intense joy.
Take the most ordinary negative event like a wordy quarrel at home. It is easy to see how by being good-mannered this can be avoided. As a next step take an ordinary positive event like serving meals. By an effort of expansive goodness bordering on generosity of selfless emotion, it is easy to see how this flat moment can be made into an occasion of rich interchange, intense human sentiments. Supposing we succeed here, it will soon be evident that with rich inner fullness, we lack the outer skill of polite manners and find it difficult to express the inner good in an outer act of goodness. The importance of that psychological skill will be self-evident. Pursuing the argument further, we can easily discover the values of talents for being genuinely pleasant to another. Capacity to be happy, capacity to express that happiness, capacity to make others happy are values rarely found. The lack of them will be sorely evident when we examine ourselves keenly. Creating a fund of natural inner goodness, acquiring social skills that express it, possessing the talent to handle the ripe goodness of heart and sentiment so as to let it distribute itself across the family, and being endowed with a capacity for inner generosity that is infectiously sweet are things one can acquire with patience and practice in humble circumstances too.
These are, in fact, endowments of the highest consciousness, sublime in content. They are found only in exalted characters, at the top of the world. One who acquires painstakingly these traits in the humblest of circumstances will, by virtue of them, be elevated in his outer social position to that of the exalted characters. By itself, these exalted characteristics are welcome and laudable. If they can also elevate one's position, that is desirable too.

[amazing]

17. Speak about the importance of being good – mannered in one’s life.

True happiness lies in the psychic, or inner divine. Going to that centre and living the outer human life from there will fill us with felicity. One can make an experiment for that purpose. I shall start with an analogy.
A work exists at several levels of skills, talents, capacities, endowments, accomplishment, from the low crude completion of utility to highly professional execution of a graceful act. At two ends, if these extremes exist, we find ourselves at some middle level. Placed as you are at your middle level, if you acquire the endowment of any higher level, LIFE can take you sooner or later to that level. Mother can take you to that high level at once.
A collector's work can be done by a rank promoted officer with care and responsibility; a secretary of the department at an advanced stage to complete his term as collector may come down for a short period as a collector and his execution of the collector's chores will be that of a mature, seasoned, experienced administrator with grace, speed and dexterity. When a writer of a text book comes down from his professional pedestal and teaches at a primary level, the teaching will be full of pith and substance, profound, enthralling. But neither the collector nor the professor can do at his post of duty more than what the post permits. The post has its own limitations by its level. Experienced persons can raise the quality of their performance very high, not the content. The collector cannot exercise higher powers than his post permits. The professor cannot teach in PUC what he can teach at the level of M.A. As the collector's post has limited powers, the PUC class, even at its best, has limited scope of receptivity.
While you are at a lower job, if you can acquire the dexterity of a higher level job, life quickly move you to the level to which your skill belongs.
Let us come down to life and grade it by levels of joy and felicity. These are low situations that yield a little joy; others yield a higher quantum of joy, while at the top there are situations whose yield of joy is the highest. Routine works yield no joy, interesting works yield some joy, while cherished, long-awaited occasions burst forth with joy. If you learn to do your works of every day with a greater joy, Mother will take you permanently to levels of life where that intensity of joy is permanent.
VIP visitors come to VIP houses and receive a rousing reception. VIP visitors in ordinary houses receive a still better reception. Ordinary visitors receive an ordinary reception. By learning to treat ordinary visitors as VIP visitors, you will move in life to be a VIP who will be receiving VIP visitors.
By learning to treat ordinary events as events of great felicity, you will move to a life position where all events begin to yield high felicity, making all life one of eternal joy.
To look at ourselves, our daily actions, our inmost feelings, especially our motivations from this point of view, we can at once know what we should do. If we bring a willingness to make that change or changes, life can turn from one of dull neutrality to one of intense joy.
Take the most ordinary negative event like a wordy quarrel at home. It is easy to see how by being good-mannered this can be avoided. As a next step take an ordinary positive event like serving meals. By an effort of expansive goodness bordering on generosity of selfless emotion, it is easy to see how this flat moment can be made into an occasion of rich interchange, intense human sentiments. Supposing we succeed here, it will soon be evident that with rich inner fullness, we lack the outer skill of polite manners and find it difficult to express the inner good in an outer act of goodness. The importance of that psychological skill will be self-evident. Pursuing the argument further, we can easily discover the values of talents for being genuinely pleasant to another. Capacity to be happy, capacity to express that happiness, capacity to make others happy are values rarely found. The lack of them will be sorely evident when we examine ourselves keenly. Creating a fund of natural inner goodness, acquiring social skills that express it, possessing the talent to handle the ripe goodness of heart and sentiment so as to let it distribute itself across the family, and being endowed with a capacity for inner generosity that is infectiously sweet are things one can acquire with patience and practice in humble circumstances too.
These are, in fact, endowments of the highest consciousness, sublime in content. They are found only in exalted characters, at the top of the world. One who acquires painstakingly these traits in the humblest of circumstances will, by virtue of them, be elevated in his outer social position to that of the exalted characters. By itself, these exalted characteristics are welcome and laudable. If they can also elevate one's position, that is desirable too.

[amazing]

Vroiam sa zic (si nu stiu de ce nu a aparut) ca nu inteleg ce legatura are textul asta cu bunele maniere ... (Vorbiti despre importantza bunelor maniere in viatza cuiva)

[musa paradisiaca]

17. Speak about the importance of being good – mannered in one’s life.

"Good manners are made up of petty sacrifices !" ( Ralph Waldo Emerson )

"What is the test of good manners ? Being able to bear patiently with bad ones !" ( Solomon Ibn Gabirol )

Introduction :

- good manners are the first mark of good breeding;
- good manners reflect directly a person's upbringing;
- the essence of good manners is making others feel comfortable;

Development :

A. Basic Good Manners - One's Family's' Tribute :

- when I came to consider this topic for my exam I thought about my behavior at home during all these years of my existence and this is what I concluded :
- as a rule I was almost always helpful to others in my home;
- I usually said "please" and "thank you" whenever I interacted with my folks;
- in the beginning I had the tendency to grab and keep good things to myself, but with time I started sharing them with my brother and sister joyfully;
- with the growing years I came to respect my family's property and other people's rooms like I did to mine;
- I helped my family by doing my own chores ( though I did not like it all the times );
- I cleaned up after myself;
- and I did all these because my mother taught me that courtesy, politeness, or having good manners means having respect for others as I have for myself;

B. Extra Good Manners - One's School's Tribute :

- then I started meditating upon my behaviour in school :
- I always said good morning / afternoon whenever I walked past an adult that I knew;
- I never took something from others without first asking if I could borrow it;
- I always returned things that I borrowed;
- I always waited for my turn before I spoke;
- I said "excuse me" rather than pushing past someone;
- I hold the door open for the person coming in, especially when he or she was carrying something;
- I always respected my own property ( my desk ) and my classmates' property ( their desks ), and my school's property, in general;
- I always said "please" and "thank you" when I interacted with others;
- and all these because my first school teacher, and then all the other teachers that I had taught me that good manners means considering the feelings of other people;
- and practicing my teachers' pieces of advice I came to understand that being good-mannered is being the kind of person that others will like and respect;

C. A Good-Mannered Person - the Mark of Self Respect :

- then whenever I happened to be in other socializing situations than in school or at home, I started practicing what my family and school taught me;
- I respected other people;
- I was polite to other people, even unknown people;
- I never used bad language in public ( for I was taught it is offensive to others );
- I always let an old person my seat on buses, train, and trams, if there was nowhere for them to sit;
- I always queued up quietly and never rudely pushed;
- I never left my rubbish for someone else to clean up, but instead, I always put my rubbish into bins;
- whenever I had fun, I was never so loud to attract the wrong kind of attention;
- I respected the property that was not mine;
- I do not smoke, so I never disturbed others through this habit ( even though many times I was much disturbed by others' intoxicating me with their cigarettes' smokes );
- I use alcohol occasionally and in very moderate quantities, and always was careful not to get intoxicated with it;
- I do not use drugs and I am an anti-drug campaigner;
- I never made fun of anyone ( because my mother taught me that anyone has feelings );
- I never commented on personal appearance or clothes in a negative way ( my mother used to say : "If you cannot say something complimentary, do not say anything at all !" )
- and all these because I already knew that having good manners makes you a pleasant person to be around, and bearing the mark of your self respect;

Conclusion :

- I may have more relaxed manners at home;
- on the other hand, when I am outside or when I have guests it is up to me to give a good impression of myself, my school, my peer group, and my family;
- because if I behave badly I give a bad impression not only of myself, but of all the institutions or associations I enter during my life;
- yet I feel life is much more pleasant when people show that they respect the comfort, the feelings, and the wellbeing of others around;
- therefore I joyfully exercise the good manners I was taught in my family and in school whenever the situation requires it;

[musa paradisiaca]

17. Speak about the importance of being good – mannered in one’s life.

True happiness lies in the psychic, or inner divine. Going to that centre and living the outer human life from there will fill us with felicity. One can make an experiment for that purpose. I shall start with an analogy.
A work exists at several levels of skills, talents, capacities, endowments, accomplishment, from the low crude completion of utility to highly professional execution of a graceful act. At two ends, if these extremes exist, we find ourselves at some middle level. Placed as you are at your middle level, if you acquire the endowment of any higher level, LIFE can take you sooner or later to that level. Mother can take you to that high level at once.
A collector's work can be done by a rank promoted officer with care and responsibility; a secretary of the department at an advanced stage to complete his term as collector may come down for a short period as a collector and his execution of the collector's chores will be that of a mature, seasoned, experienced administrator with grace, speed and dexterity. When a writer of a text book comes down from his professional pedestal and teaches at a primary level, the teaching will be full of pith and substance, profound, enthralling. But neither the collector nor the professor can do at his post of duty more than what the post permits. The post has its own limitations by its level. Experienced persons can raise the quality of their performance very high, not the content. The collector cannot exercise higher powers than his post permits. The professor cannot teach in PUC what he can teach at the level of M.A. As the collector's post has limited powers, the PUC class, even at its best, has limited scope of receptivity.
While you are at a lower job, if you can acquire the dexterity of a higher level job, life quickly move you to the level to which your skill belongs.
Let us come down to life and grade it by levels of joy and felicity. These are low situations that yield a little joy; others yield a higher quantum of joy, while at the top there are situations whose yield of joy is the highest. Routine works yield no joy, interesting works yield some joy, while cherished, long-awaited occasions burst forth with joy. If you learn to do your works of every day with a greater joy, Mother will take you permanently to levels of life where that intensity of joy is permanent.
VIP visitors come to VIP houses and receive a rousing reception. VIP visitors in ordinary houses receive a still better reception. Ordinary visitors receive an ordinary reception. By learning to treat ordinary visitors as VIP visitors, you will move in life to be a VIP who will be receiving VIP visitors.
By learning to treat ordinary events as events of great felicity, you will move to a life position where all events begin to yield high felicity, making all life one of eternal joy.
To look at ourselves, our daily actions, our inmost feelings, especially our motivations from this point of view, we can at once know what we should do. If we bring a willingness to make that change or changes, life can turn from one of dull neutrality to one of intense joy.
Take the most ordinary negative event like a wordy quarrel at home. It is easy to see how by being good-mannered this can be avoided. As a next step take an ordinary positive event like serving meals. By an effort of expansive goodness bordering on generosity of selfless emotion, it is easy to see how this flat moment can be made into an occasion of rich interchange, intense human sentiments. Supposing we succeed here, it will soon be evident that with rich inner fullness, we lack the outer skill of polite manners and find it difficult to express the inner good in an outer act of goodness. The importance of that psychological skill will be self-evident. Pursuing the argument further, we can easily discover the values of talents for being genuinely pleasant to another. Capacity to be happy, capacity to express that happiness, capacity to make others happy are values rarely found. The lack of them will be sorely evident when we examine ourselves keenly. Creating a fund of natural inner goodness, acquiring social skills that express it, possessing the talent to handle the ripe goodness of heart and sentiment so as to let it distribute itself across the family, and being endowed with a capacity for inner generosity that is infectiously sweet are things one can acquire with patience and practice in humble circumstances too.
These are, in fact, endowments of the highest consciousness, sublime in content. They are found only in exalted characters, at the top of the world. One who acquires painstakingly these traits in the humblest of circumstances will, by virtue of them, be elevated in his outer social position to that of the exalted characters. By itself, these exalted characteristics are welcome and laudable. If they can also elevate one's position, that is desirable too.

Your answer looks like a philosophical essay that might fit a written exam. For an oral exam you must have a well prepared plan of ideas for the oral discourse and the ideas written clearly on the sheet of paper one under the other for you to find them as easily and as quickly as possible; because while having a short look at them you also have to look at the examiners to make them the impression that you are able to speak freely.

[anadaniela]

Any educated person must learn and respect the good manners in society and in their families. Living together is difficult if the good manners are not present and we can see that every day at school, in the street and even at home. RESPECT ME TO RESPECT YOU – is something that everybody must do. The good manners still exist for most of the people but some young people consider them out of fashion and have no respect for anything or for anyboby. For example not all the students always respect their teachers or their own parents

[musa paradisiaca]

Any educated person must learn and respect the good manners in society and in their families. Living together is difficult if the good manners are not present and we can see that every day at school, in the street and even at home. RESPECT ME TO RESPECT YOU – is something that everybody must do. The good manners still exist for most of the people but some young people consider them out of fashion and have no respect for anything or for anyboby. For example not all the students always respect their teachers or their own parents

There is some strange logic in the sentence : RESPECT ME TO RESPECT YOU ! ( The strangeness is this : IF YOU DO NOT RESPECT ME, THEN I DO NOT RESPECT YOU !!! ) Genuine good manners do not crave to see good manners in others so that they can pop up. But instead, good manners express themselves naturally without the competition of someone else's good manners ! It's because good manners cannot behave in any other way but good manners ! If good manners are welcomed by other good manners that is the ideal case !

[Aixa]

Manners are important because they are a way to persuade others to continue having social contact with us, by making the other person feel valued, respected and appreciated.Good manners also represent the everyday habits of conduct and speech by which we express our fundamental respect for others, whether parents, friends, colleagues or strangers. Having good manners means showing kindness and consideration to people. It's about making them feel good about themselves and it makes us feel good, too.

Courtesy, politeness or having good manners are all about respecting others and yourself. Good manners is about considering the feelings of other people, and being the kind of person that others will like and respect. In the past it was the Golden Rule - "always do to others as you would wish them to do to you if you were in their place." This is still a good way to behave nowadays. If you are respectful to others, then you are more likely to be treated with respect by them.Being good - mannered makes you a pleasant person to be around. If you show good manners everywhere you go, then you are more likely to encourage others to behave in the same way towards you. Start your day off by smiling and feeling positive. Treat everyone you come across with respect. That way their day may be a good one and maybe they'll pass that smile and positive attitude along to someone else. Having bad manners can be associated with having poor character. Some people feel that being "mannered" is "fake" or unauthentic, but good manners are social conventions that make interactions easier and more pleasant.

Good manners will get us far. We can choose to be rude, but we will end up alone in the world.I think good manners are the key to our succes. When we improve our manners we improve our chances for succes. People with good manners are liked and supported and they have more friends, luck and succes.We'll never regret being too polite but we might regret being rude.